You know this day and age there's always those whiny people out there who complain about everything so this I feel is a good time to bring this up. A number of people I've met and talked to (mostly people outside the this community) see a guy trampling a guy the same as a guy abusing a guy.
Now I understand the whole trampling thing more I totally get it. Some guys like to feel like they are in control... or own someone. They always end up being the trampler. The subs who want to be used by the guy who wants to trample then gets what he needs by being trampled.
When both parties are consenting adults there is no problem.
Now lets look at it from another angle. Two guys are good friends..guy 1 and guy 2. The guy 1 is trampling his mate but starts to feel the power a little to much and starts pushing the boundaries more and more. The guy 2 really likes spending time with guy 1 because he has feelings got him and while most of what has been happening... guy 2 lets guy1 do what he wants because of this. Guy1 starts exploring new things but guy2 just lets him do it because he likes being around guy 1.
At what point does this become abuse?